This week we discussed Divorce. I remember this song and thought it went well with the topic.
As a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints I know that generally divorce should and can be avoided. However, there are some circumstances where it is necessary and possibly even better for everyone involved. There is a talk given by Dallin H. Oaks of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
Here is the link for the entire talk, http://lds.org/general-conference/2007/04/divorce?lang=eng&query=divorce, but I am going to post a few quotes that stood out to me.
"modern prophets have warned that looking upon marriage “as a mere contract that may be entered into at pleasure … and severed at the first difficulty … is an evil meriting severe condemnation,” especially where children are made to suffer."
"Because “of the hardness of [our] hearts,” the Lord does not currently enforce the consequences of the celestial standard. He permits divorced persons to marry again without the stain of immorality specified in the higher law. Unless a divorced member has committed serious transgressions, he or she can become eligible for a temple recommend under the same worthiness standards that apply to other members."
"I strongly urge you and those who advise you to face up to the reality that for most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance."
However Divorce does happen and there are a few factors that will make for a better adjustment:
-Positive (intact) Social Network
-Cordial Relationship after divorce between parents
-Good Attitude
-Cooperation in re-establishing parental roles (boundaries)
-coping with emotional (psych) of divorce (Loss)
-Intact economic stability between both parties
- No Children
-Less trauma (reason for divorce)
-Co-Parental Involvement
-Children staying in the same home/No relocation (same school, neighborhood, etc)
-Awareness of Divorce and reasons so children don't blame themselves
-Support of Family/Friends
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